I'm finally reading that bell hooks All About Love book. I thought it was gonna make my eye roll but it's actually quite good.
In the chapter I'm in, she introduces this idea of "cathexis" which is the moment a person or thing enters your sphere of concern. It is not the same as love but is often mistaken for love. That distinction is illuminating. She defines love as a force that wills you to want to be better for yourself or another person.
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